Thanks for tuning in once again. I haven't been on my site for a while, but I'm finally back. Things are going to get edgier from this moment forward.
For those who follow me on TikTok, you have seen some of my posts talk about relationships, dating, and even marriage. I know some of you might be thinking that, because I've never been married, I have no place to give any feedback or advice on the topic. I'm here to tell you that this is my blog, and I'll say what I want. If you don't like it, don't read the rest of what I'm going to say next.
That being said, let's begin.
Modern dating sucks, and so does the idea of being married. It goes a little something like this:
You see a girl. You like a girl. You ask her out. She calls you a creep, and she walks away.
You see another girl. You like this girl. You strike up a conversation, and you ask her out. She tells you that she has a man (whether true or not). You walk away.
You see another girl. You like this girl. You talk to her and ask her out. She accepts the date. She then bails at the last moment. You're disappointed. You ignore her.
So you see another girl, strike up a convo, ask her out, and she accepts. You two go on this date, you two have fun, and you hug her and you go your separate ways. She then texts you and tells you that she doesn't think you're a great match. She wants to keep you around as a friend. Because you're not interested in that shit, you decline. (Good for you if you do)
Okay now here's where it gets better... or worse.
You see a girl, you like her, you date her, and then after a few more dates, you get into a relationship. She gets comfortable, she keeps posting pictures of herself on Instagram, knowing that all of her male followers will keep complementing her and cat calling her. You voice your displeasure and ask her to block the ones who keep DMing her, and she refuses. If you're a self-respecting man, you end this relationship. If you don't, she will continue to do it because she clearly doesn't respect you.
Now let's get into marriage.
You see a girl, like a girl, date this girl, get into a relationship with this girl, propose to this girl, and then you marry her. You even have kids. Let's say she has these male friends who she's known since childhood. She talks to them often, mostly by text. They are very comfortable with her. You tell her you don't want her talking to them. She downplays it, calls you jealous and insecure, and then you two have problems. She goes to her male friends and tells them all the negative things about your marriage. She gives them more attention than she gives you. The boldest one is in your bed with her, or has her in his bed. You don't know about it, but you're suspicious. Somehow, some way, she slips up, and you catch her. She denies it until you show proof, and she finds a way to blame you for her infidelity. You get divorced, and she takes half of everything. She most likely will keep the kids, and you most likely will end up paying child support.
This is what modern dating has become. Why should I date? Why should I try?
My last relationship (or situationship) ended over four years ago. I won't put her on blast, but long story short, she left me for her godson and married him. She claims, to this day, to be this Godly woman. The man she's with calls himself a Godly Son. Both of them lied to get me out of the picture. He lied to her about me, and she lied to me about him.
I forgive them, but the trust is gone. Because of this, I don't trust any woman on earth, nor am I willing to give anyone the benefit of the doubt. I've been lied to many times before this. This was really the worst time, and the last time.
I'm confident that I'll heal one day, and even when I do, I'm more than likely going to stay single anyway. I see what's out there, and I don't like it. I will talk more about this subject so stay tuned.
Until next time, God bless.
The Freedom Runner